What If You Don’t Know What Your Ten Is?
On a recent call, my coach asked me to score myself on a scale of 1-10 in multiple different categories: my health, my relationship with my wife, my relationship with my kids, my businesses, my own leadership, and self-care.
I was relatively pleased with my scores as they were all over sevens.
But then something hit me, and I said to him, “What if I don’t know what a ten is?”
You see, my ten is based on my current reality. But my current reality isn’t objective reality. For instance, if you would’ve told me eighteen months ago that I’d have since run two marathons, a half-marathon, and completed a long-distance swim, I’d have told you that you were nuts.
My score back then in the health category might have been a nine, based on what I thought a ten was back then.
One of my mentors, Jesse Itzler, uses the term “under-indexing” to describe the limitations so many of us place on ourselves just because we don’t know what we’re actually capable of.
Think about the categories I listed above. Score yourself. Then ask yourself if you really know what your ten is. You might not. I’d argue that’s a good thing. It means the sky’s the limit.